Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Baby Mama Drama
I know a guy that got a young lady pregnant. By the time to child was born... he was in a new relationship with who would be his future wife. This set his childs mother OFF!!! She was all set to raise hell and make his life miserable. What he did next is almost unheard of. He went down to The Friend of the Court and told them he had just had a child. He said he was in no way going to try to leave this baby high and dry. He then proceeded to turn over his financial records and have child support set up. He then got a lawyer to handle custody and visitation. Needless to say this took the wind out of the mothers sail. She had no trump card. Nothing to threaten with or hold over his head. It was one of the most beautiful things I'd ever seen:-) Being a baby mama is NOT the same as being the woman he loves and wants to be with. Yes... you slept together. Yes... you shared something, but it will never be what you want it to be. He can love and care for his child and never have to be anything beyond nice to you. A lot of women that have children with men expect way too much, which is why it's so much drama surrounding this issue. Ladies... grow up and remember you knew the possible outcome when you laid down and let the nickle fall from between your knees. Men... You also knew what could happen so please take care of your children. It's embarrassing when women act a fool because he doesn't want to be with you. That's life! Deal and move on. But please... stop making scenes in public and calling other women and doing all kinds of foolishness. You're the mother of his baby... nothing more and nothing less. And if that child is taken care of by him... you should have NO problem with anything else.
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Beautifully written Tammi. - Kerrie
ReplyDeleteI agree with you to a certain point....The statement by the time the child was born he was in a relationship with who would be his future wife...The problem is I would have been concerned about a man who had another woman pregnant and I was going to be his future wife. The thing is you have no idea what their relationship was based upon. I am sick of men thinking that they can just run over a women and move on to the next. I can identify with this situation because I have lived it and not all women are acting a fool for nothing and I am glad to see that he did the right thing and offered support of the child which in most cases the men do not. I a married man who was separated from his wife and I had no idea he was even married and by the time I found out I was pregnant with his child..the difference for me is that I had enough respect to not go acting a fool or creating drama because I knew I just had to deal with my situation. Just know that in most cases the women act a fool because they have been dealing with a fool...
ReplyDeleteActing the fool...even because you realized the man you were dealing with is a fool...just makes BOTH of y'all fools.
ReplyDeleteI pity the children in this situation...when neither parent acts like they have good sense...